The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning: How to Free Yourself and your Family from a Lifetime of Clutter | Chapter 20 of 55

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Death cleaning on your own

It would have been incredibly nice to have had my husband’s company to help me get through emptying our home, in my third death cleaning. But it was impossible. He was dead.

All my kids came home for the funeral, but the death cleaning took almost a year. I worked at a steady pace on my own. I kept in mind comments from my children about certain objects they adored, and held onto these items to give to them later, while cleaning out other things that nobody cared about.

If I had asked my children and in-laws for assistance, I am sure they would have done their utmost to help me. But I did not ask. Three of them had small children, and they had jobs in places such as the USA, Africa, and Japan, far from my little house on the western coast of Sweden. It would have been too much to organise a visit from my children and their children, with all their bags. Besides, I hate to ask for help.

To go through all the things that represented our life together (50 years of ups mostly, some downs, five kids) by myself made me feel very lonely. My husband and I should have done the job together, starting at the age of 65, or maybe even earlier, when we were stronger and our health was better. But everyone thinks they will live forever. Suddenly, my soulmate was gone.

In hindsight, I think that doing it on my own might have been a good thing. Perhaps it was easier for me to do it by myself.

Had I cleaned with my husband, it would have taken us years. Men tend to save most things rather than throw them away. That goes for even the smallest nuts and bolts. They think, and rightly so sometimes, that every little thing will be useful on some later occasion.

And had my kids shown up, they would have wanted to save everything. Everything! Or at least they would have had differing, confusing opinions about what to save.

So, in the end, the best thing for me was to do the cleaning myself. On the other hand, if you have children who have huge amounts of time on their hands, by all means involve them in your cleaning.

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Alice
Great book, nicely written and thank you BooksVooks for uploading

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